At the moment I’m reminded quite a bit that you cant hang onto people forever and yet there will be people in my life when I’m 90 that will still be there no matter what…… It’s all about whether they’re in your life for a reason season or lifetime isnt it? Our recent visit to JHB was a reminder of this fact. Of all the friends that we had for over 10 years , very few have actually remained in contact since we’ve moved and more surprisingly it’s been the ones I least expected……I’ve found that very hard and in fact stewed over it for some time. I was angry actually but then someone put it this way to me.
We abandoned THEM…..WE were the ones that left THEM and moved cities. We’ve started new life and their’s has continued without us. And the trip up there showed me that that chapter is over. That season in our life is done and think I because we still don’t have any friends here , that reality makes it hard, because we’re kind of floating on an interim island.
I saw this quote and it is really what prompted me to finally write this post as I’ve been thinking about it for some time:
In life, you will realize there is a role for everyone you meet. Some will test you, some will use you, some will love you, and some will teach you. But the ones who are truly important are the ones who bring out the best in you. They are the rare and amazing people who remind you why it’s worth it – Unknown
On that note….A couple of months ago I was trusted with some information from a friend that didn’t sit well with me. I chose the route of being the supportive friend who listened and didn’t judge, who just was there……but it still doesn’t sit well with me and I find it hard not judge. I know that I should pray for this person but I’m finding more and more that i’m being sapped and find myself giving 150% in return for only 5%.
So I’ve begun questioning whether this reason/season with this friend is done? When do you make the break and say “enough already!”. I guess I also grapple with the type of person it make me by condoning the behaviour and not judging it? As my faith has grown again over the past year so have my convictions on wanting to be better in every sphere of my life and I sometimes feel that being involved like this tarnishes me and doesn’t make me better. Does that make sense?
So yip. I’ve compartmentalised JHB as a season in our life, but i’m not sure where to put this friend……
So there you have it lots going on in THIS head!!! Makes the saying so true:
Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.