Coming Home

On the way to the hospital when we got the terrible news of my dad all I could pray was: “Please God spare my dad , just let him live and let him come home” and tomorrow my prayer will be answered!

My dad is coming home. He has been given the all clear from the Physician Dr Ramdass (who by the way if you need a Physician at Ethekwini Heart Hospital, then this is your man. His bedside manner is amazing and he has been approachable and just present at a time when we needed it most). If you’re looking for a Neuro I can tell you who NOT to touch! Unless of course you want to be told you’re dying and there is no chance for survival!!!

My work colleague’s mom , who runs an old age home, has been an absolute Godsend with advice and helping mom get ready for dad’s return. We have hospital beds, wheelchairs , table and carers all on standby and will go and fetch dad tomorrow.

The road is still long but you know what right now…today… if feels like we’ll conquer anything!

I still believe in my dad and believe that he will make a full recovery. His speech is improving day by day and every day he gets stronger.

More than that we cant ask for!

Its so good to say MY DAD IS COMING HOME!

When all you can do is pray for a miracle

It’s been a tough 24hrs. Mom went to pick dad yesterday and she called us sobbing! Dad had had another stroke on Sunday night. The entire family rushed down to hospital and we spent the day there.

It’s in the same place as the previous stroke on Monday night but far more severe.
This has left him Paralysed in the right hand side of his body and he cannot talk. He has what is called Expressive Aphasia (Just means he is not able to talk)
He does however recognise us and can use his left arm to squeeze a hand or pull you towards him to give you a kiss.

Yesterday was a very tough day we spent most of the day just floating around the hospital and spending brief periods with Dad.

All we can do is pray for a recovery. I have prayed and prayed and begged God for a miracle all the while still trying to come to terms with the fact that my dad will probably never be the same again. But as a Christian I have to believe that what will be will be and that it is in God’s hands. He knows the plans he has for us.

We in for a long Journey but for me I pray that Dad will regain his speech. There’s so much I want to say to him and I’m sure he wants to say to us. I pray he gets to do that.

The rollercoster returns!

So my dad had a stroke on Monday night!

And just like that we’ve be plunged back into the world of hospitals visiting hours and tears!

It was a minor stroke and we are lucky that there is no major paralysis in the body or face. He is weak on the right hand side and is having speech therapy to regain his vocab.

To the untrained eye you would not know that it has happened but after a few minutes you pick up he is talking a little bit of rubbish and when he cant find a word he goes: “um  um um, you know its just the way it is”

Mom, the superhero, is holding up like a champ as she always does. Although she took him to Alberlito (our closest hospital ) she had the presence of mind to get him transferred to our Knight in shining armour Hospital, The Ethekwini Heart Hospital. Once again the level of care that Dad has received has been amazing. Dr Khan the Neurologist has been great as well and we yet again feel it is the best place for him to be , albeit a terrible drive to go see Dad.

We’re all holding up fine but occasionally tears of frustration do catch me. I wonder when my darling father will wake up and smell the coffee and realise that there is more to life at the ripe old age of 73 than driving into the city every day to work,  and that he has a family that adores him and a wife who would like to spend some quality years with him. I selfishly fear that he wont get to see his grandchildren grow up and that we wont have our house built in time for him to be able to pop over when he want to watch a game with Rich or have some tea, just because he can.

But we don’t dwell on the negative and instead we pray that he’ll make a speedy recovery and most of all in the time he has before he’s fully recovered that somewhere in all of this he realises there’s more to life…..